Happy Memorial Day Weekend! Empathy, Poetry, Summer Plans
Hey everyone! Since we went on our big weekend last week (San Fran – Fourteen Hills reading/launch party, the de Young art museum’s Impressionism show, many galleries, a teensy bit of shopping, and the Ferry Building Market) we’re just relaxing this weekend – well, I’m mostly grading the chapbooks and papers of my class and two thesis papers and aesthetic statements, but besides that, relaxing. California’s been shaking and storming this spring – we barely got a sunny day last week – but this weekend the sun is supposed to make its appearance anew.
Speaking of students, a study just came out showing that today’s students are more self-centered and less empathetic than students of thirty years ago. Do you think that’s true? This was, after all, a generation raised on “self-esteem” being the name of the game, which let’s face it, is self-esteem more important than caring about other people? If so, it is a shame, because reading poetry itself requires some degree of empathy – of caring what another person is thinking or feeling. To step into another person’s “I” or “You” is to take a leap of imaginative, and yes, empathetic, faith. When I do my persona poetry exercises, I explain to classes about what empathy is, and how persona poetry can help students step into another person’s shoes. It’s also why I purposefully teach books of poetry from many different perspectives in terms of gender, sexuality, race, and class.
I’m looking forward to summer, because now I can focus on writing and sending things out for a bit instead of student work, and maybe setting up some more readings (I had so much fun at the last one it’s made me more enthusiastic – and let me take a moment for a shout out to Seattle poets Michael Schmeltzer and Johnny Horton, who both rocked the house!) and sending out a few manuscripts. I’m still working heavily on revising my latest book manuscript, too – deleting poems, changing lines, updating cover sheets and acknowledgements. Some people take a poetry vacation over the summer, but for me, it’s one of my most productive times in terms of both writing and getting things out into the world. I’ve also volunteered for not one, not two, but three book review assignments in the next month or so. Yikes! A lot of work, but I felt the last year or so with all the health challenges I hadn’t been able to do as much reviewing, and I feel like it’s important for women to get out there and get in the critical conversation, right?
And I’m planning a trip up to Seattle – with maybe a stopover in Portland for my MFA reunion reception – in a couple of weeks, and trying to get things in line for that. Figuring out gluten-free eating is much easier in Seattle than San Francisco, surprisingly enough. Although San Fran did just open up an all grilled-cheese-sandwich restaurant with the option for house-made, gluten-free bread, so points for that. Of course, here in Napa, I have Pica Pica, my gracious fallback in Venezualan gluten-free food.
Kells
hi J9–
RE: Speaking of students, a study just came out showing that today’s students are more self-centered and less empathetic than students of thirty years ago. Do you think that’s true?
***No, I don’t think that’s accurate. I think it’s our perception.
Here’s a quote that was attributed to Socrates, but it reminds me that how we feel are how all adults feel about kids/the next generation through time–
“The children now love luxury. They have bad manners, contempt for authority, they show disrespect to their elders…. They no longer rise when elders enter the room. They contradict their parents, chatter before company, gobble up dainties at the table, cross their legs, and are tyrants over their teachers.”
I think all generations have their issues. The same quote could have been said about me (self-centered and less empathetic) when I was in high school or college. But I think that just might be the adjectives one *always* uses to describe young adults! Because they are to a point. (but then again, I know some adults that could be described as the same way). š
I don’t like studies that generalize a whole generation like that. I think it makes it too easy (just as everyone said our generation, Generation X were a bunch of slackers. I’m not sure I’d use that term to describe myself.) š
hope to talk with you soon!
xo
kels
Jeannine
That’s a good attitude, Kels. I thought the article itself was terribly depressing. Maybe kids have always been this level of selfish, but now they are more honest about it?
Jeannine
PS the same study was administered to a sample group of kids over thirty years ago and recently, with questions like “Do you feel bad for people less fortunate than yourself?” and “I try to see things for other people’s point of views.”
mschmeltzer01
Aw~ thanks for the shout out Jeannine. You didn’t do too shabby yourself my new friend. š Hope you had a wonderful holiday weekend.
kristy bowen
Theres some truth to it perhaps.. I always call it “special little snowflake syndrome”…in a 3-4 hour desk shift at the library I get about three instances in which the students believe procedures, rules, etc do not apply to them the way they do everyone else..it has gotten progressively worse over the last 10 years of working with students, so who knows?